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I must say that this morning my thoughts were geared towards relationships.  We often say and think that if a relationship does not work, it is because we were with the wrong person and though that is true for most is not for all.  You see, God revealed to me this morning that there have been times when we were with the right person...but we ourselves were in the "wrong" place.  Our mindset, our thoughts, our beliefs have sometimes led to the relationship going sour and it had nothing to do with that person but everything to do with us...there are times when we actually have met the person who can build us up..the person who will encourage us and be in our corner no matter what...that person who will love us to the best of their ability...but we were not ready...for them.  We have to be honest with ourselves and take a look back...when did you say, "they treated me wrong" or "he or she was a good person to be in relationship with but they cheated..." or even, "They were not ready for me."  We have to stop all of the blaming on them and start with us.  Yes we have been hurt by those who were not ready for us and yes, they turned out to be controlling or abusive or even hurtful...but it wasn't everyone...was it? 

I think we need to accept the fact that our actions or thoughts or even our level of maturity may have caused a good relationship to go sour..or cause us to lose what could have been the best relationship of our lives.  Sometimes it was us not being able to see who they really were or even us thinking "I can change them"...Never discount those horrible experiences that left us broken and hurt.  Those persons did not deserve us...and also those persons who were good for us...did not deserve us either at a time when we were not ready.  Think on this for a moment...I have...and I realize and have accepted the fact that I too messed up a time or two.  It wasn't just wasn't time.  Sometimes we feel we are ready..we feel that we can conduct a successful and productive relationship with a person only to find out...we can't.  It's ok...don't beat up on happened and the only thing you can do now is forgive yourself.  If you have had the opportunity to ask them for forgiveness for messing up the relationship...please do...but if you have not...forgive yourself...move forward and be a better you.  Until next time...


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