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Abuse...Defined...

It is domestic violence awareness month and I applaud all of those who have had the courage to step away from those who have been abusing them...and even those who are waiting for the chance.  I even applaud those who want to leave but at the present moment...can't...why...because they have the heart to do so but their lives may be in danger of the lives of their children...and my prayer is that the opportunity to leave will present itself...soon.  But for those who have chosen to stay for whatever reason...no applause for you...why..because you are blind to what is happening to you physically, mentally, sexually in some cases and even spiritually.  You stay because you love them...and because you think things will get better.....

Your abuser does not...love you.  Your abuser is not sorry every time they use your face as a punching bag.  Your abuser is not pitiful as he or she...may seem.  Your abuser is a monster who needs help...help you cannot give them.  Why do you think after a pitiful apology they do it again?  Why when you try to do something for yourself...they get mad?  Why when you spend time with family or friends they become jealous? Why would love...hurt?  I know when we are in love, of course those who love us can hurt us...our feelings...but they should not hurt us by the blow of their hand or the kick of their foot...they should not hurt us by spitting in our faces or on our bodies...they should not hurt us by saying hurtful things that make us cry!  THAT MY FRIENDS IS ABUSE!

What will it take to wake up?  What will it take for you to see, you are in an abusive relationship?  What will it take for you to stop saying, "but he didn't mean it", or "he was sad, going through something and just took it out on me"...REALLY?  THAT IS YOUR EXCUSE.  WAKE UP! If after being beaten you feel a sense of worthlessness...you are being abused.  If after hearing you are nothing and will never be nothing or you will never amount to anything or even...you are a bitch...a whore...someone no one else would want...you are being abused.  If when they have had a bad day come home to rape and strip you of any dignity...you are being abused.  If you know what they do and say is not right...YOU ARE BEING ABUSED!

You are more than that.  God created you to be the head...not the tail.  God created you to be above...and not beneath.  God created you as a priceless gem...not something anyone can place a price on and sell to the lowest bidder...YOU ARE MORE...THAN WHAT YOU HAVE BECOME! Do not let anyone, friend, co-worker, boss, mate..no one define who you are.  You define who you are by not accepting anyone and anything.  You define who you are by leaving that horrible situation and demanding better.  You define who you are by getting out...and getting help!  How would I know..because I too was in an abusive relationship..horrible one at that...but I got out.  With the help of friends and my godfather...I got out and was able to hide with several friends until the time was right..you can too.  No one can make you leave...your knowledge of what you are worth and what you deserve...will...

Know the warning signs...know that these people are insecure...and in themselves feel insignificant....know they may have come from a family of abuse or have been in situations that they themselves were abused...know and when the moment is right..before it is too late...GO!...until next time...



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