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Greater Is Coming

Well it has been quite a journey with this former relationship of mine.  As with all relationships, you learn a little something, apply a little something and take away a little something.  The hope is that you take away more wisdom than you brought in.  The hope is that you learned a little more about you than you knew before.  The hope is that you know without a shadow of a doubt that your greater is coming.

When we meet people and begin the process of coming together in a relationship, we hope that the person we meet, their persona, their smile, their disposition, their character stands strong throughout the entire relationship.  Whether it be a month of dating or 52 years of marriage as I witnessed yesterday in church, you want what you met to be true.  At times it does stand the test of time but there are other times when it doesn't.  If not so be it.  Greater is coming.

Not everyone is who they SAY they are and not everyone does what they SAY they will do but we, as the other party, must do what we can to hold up who we are.  That's what is most important right? That through it all, we as individuals, remain who we are in spite of who they turned out to be.  And let me be clear.  I am not speaking of someone turning out to be a horrible person who lied and manipulated their way through the relationship, although they are out there, but just someone who said they wanted what you wanted in the beginning and towards the end, wanted different.  It is what it is at that point but know, greater is coming.

We have to learn how to be honest with ourselves first and then we can be honest with others.  Isn't that the way it SHOULD be?  One of the most hurtful things I have encountered was believing that the other person wanted what I did, when I did, how I did.  Not so much, I have found.  There is nothing wrong with wanting different things in life, but there is something wrong with making the other person believe that you want the same thing.  Be up front with your feelings and your desires so that the other person can get to their greater because it is coming.

I find that when we know who we are, we will know who we need to be connected with.  Then and only then will we engage in meaningful relationships.  We won't hurt the other person because of our misguided beliefs and we won't damage the other person because we want nothing more than to date and not to marry.  We must stop thinking selfishly and start thinking corporately when it comes to human relationships.  When we do, we have better outcomes, less pain and less confusion.  Greater is coming.


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